"I thought about the days i had handed over to a bottle..the nights i can't remember..the mornings i slept thru..all the time spent running from myself.”
― Mitch Albom, For One More Day
Courtesy of Prince Boakye-Yiadom
I called her upon receiving the tragic news. It turns out I didn't even need to call at all: Fosua was fine and dandy. How could a teenage girl who had just lost her brother, her father and her home in one night, be so sober and so calm? Yes, both men died from different causes; however, the conundrum lied in the timings of their deaths - both at the eleventh hour. Fosua's father was a heavy drinker who had lost his driver's licence due to the numerous, drunk-driving violations he had accumulated over the past 7 years. No, he was not abusive of any sorts: he was just plain annoying. Fosua and her now-deceased brother, Mikki, along with their mother, took turns to clean the vomit of their father's inebriating, on a weekly basis. Mikki had to become the supporting driver of the family at the age of 17. And like every 17-year old, his father's car became his medium for mischief. This attitude of abusing his privileges to his father's car turned Mikki's relationship with his parents very sour. On the night of their deaths, Mikki and his once again intoxicated father engaged in a verbal and physical fight which triggered a heart attack in the latter. Fosua and her mother rushed the dying man to the hospital after Mikki had driven away in heated anger. At 11 o'clock on the dot, in the hospital, Fosua watched her mother cry inconsolably as the paramedics broke the news of her father's time of death. She watched again, as her mother fainted from shock when she received a phone call from the police that their house had been completely burnt to the ground - with Mikki asleep in it. Apparently, his notorious speeding caused the heated tyres of his father's car to catch fire from some pieces of foam lying aimlessly in the garage. I asked Fosua why she seemed so calm; her response was, "Who are you?". Fosua had immediately contracted dissociative amnesia owing to the trauma of the recent events. And suddenly, I knew that my words of comfort and condolences were fallen on deaf ears. I was speaking to someone who had forgotten to remember who she was.
So, what's the moral of the story?
As a human, you're naturally born with dissociative amnesia in your soul. You are born into the world to forget. To forget who you are, where you came from, why you are where you are, what you can, must and shouldn't do and where you are going. Unfortunately, the world does nothing to help alleviate this condition that is stealthily stealing your life; but rather, it aggravates your dire situation. The world proposes all manner of 'advancement' and 'progress' as the solutions to your soulic-al plight. The world says, "You'll find healing in the future we give you." But the truth is that, the only way to heal dissociative amnesia is to trigger the lost memories of the patient by repeatedly exposing him or her to the truth about their past. There is no alternative to this. As a result, it is imperative for all humanity to seek absolute Truth. For it is in it that we remember the true source of our pains and problems: it is in remembering the absolute, that we find healing for the amnesia of the soul.
"Whenever we are balancing on our limited human conditions, that's where our life starts. That's where we start living." - Philippe Petit
Photography by Joseph Osei-Bonsu
Faith is actually an acronym, which stands for the:
F - Fight
A - Against
I - Interim
T - Tests and
H - Hardships
caused by a decision.
Faith is a fight. A fight elicited by a decision. Faith is not a religious experience, but an everyday experience, because decisions are made everyday. E.g. You have decided to go to Manhattan today for the first time in your life. You don't have a car but you still want to do so. Then, you have to 'fight' the obstacles of your vehicle-less-ness, the uncertainty of weather, the distance of travelling, the constraints of time, the financial demands of the trip, your lack of direction to your destination and the possibility of getting lost. Even though all of these obstacles eliminate the guarantee that Manhattan will be accessible to you, you still follow through on your decision. You:
1. Wear appropriate clothing to meet the demands of the current weather and time.
2. Find the information on how to get there through a map or other resourceful means.
3. Prepare to pay the price or cost of the trip, no matter how much.
4. Go to the bus, train or taxi station, hoping and believing that you'll find one.
5. Wait for, and trust your means of transportation to cover the required distance in between you and your destination
6. Recover from any detour you might have taken on the way there.
7. Ask for additional assistance and information from those who have already been there or are en route there.
After all this, you're still not guaranteed that when you get to Manhattan, it'll still be there. As a matter of fact, you trust Gravity(something you have never seen), more than you trust Manhattan to be where and as it is. Yet, you still embark on the journey of your decision. Why? Because you are ready to FIGHT ANY INTERIM TESTS and HARDSHIP that may arise on your way, so that you can JUSTIFY your decision! Faith transcends beyond just the disciplines of religion and science. And it is not a subject of religious or scientific debate. For faith is one of the fundamental laws upon which all things were created, made, or discovered. Though it cannot be seen, it is more real than what we call reality. Because the raw material of the 'Unseen', or what we call 'supernatural', 'spiritual', 'intangible', 'eternal', is laws or principles. Everything that can be sensed physically is the direct result of the adherence to, and/or, the breaking of a law or a principle. Faith is one of these laws. 'The Law of Faith' states that:
"An idea can only be proven as true or false, real or apparent, right or wrong through violent opposition that is automatically created to destroy that idea. Hence, the quality and magnitude of the idea determines the quality and magnitude of its opposition."
This means that all humanity is indirectly responsible for each other's obstacles in life through the decisions we have made, make, or about to make. Since we aren't privy to everybody's every single decision, we don't have the knowledge to come to a conclusion about every obstacle that we have faced, are facing or will face. We can only explain what we know, not what we don't know. Because of this reason, there is no true stability in the world.
So, what is your F. A. I. T. H. today?